How A Lagos Gynecologist Raped Lady Patient In General Hospital Ward

Category: Health & Relationship Matters

A lady who was raped by her doctor in a popular General hospital on the Island wrote to Laila's Blog on her ordeals and shame after being raped by a doctor she trusted.

This is for ladies who trusts their doctors with not just their bodies but all their mind, guess you might learn one or two things from this.

Here's her mail:

I was thinking of keeping this to myself but it keeps eating me up. So, today I decided to share my story, with the hope I relieve myself of the pain I feel and hope that it won't happen to others. Let me start by saying I always had this notion that I can never be abused because am a reserved, disciplined person but alas, I was abused by my consultant in a Lagos Island maternity hospital and this is how it happened.

I was diagnosed with a vaginal infection which I had been battling with for like three months. So I was referred to the General hospital by a GP due to the seriousness of infection. At the general Hospital, I was given an appointment and asked to do some tests which I did. I was given drugs but yet, I had no relief. So I kept going to the hospital and due to the nature of my job, I knew I had to get one of the consultants' contact in order to get him/her to treat me at my own convenient time even if I have to pay extra.

I had met about 4 different consultants but the fifth (Dr Yomi) consultant seemed to be more professional than others - in the sense that he listens to you, makes you feel relaxed irrespective of the issue you have as a patient, takes his time to explain things to you. This made me feel safe and trusted him to the extent that I had to complain to him that I think I am having a whitish discharge from one of my breast which he actually checked out for me and reassured me that am ok.
Assuming the situation didn't turn ugly, I would have said he was the best doctor I have ever seen in my life. So with that, I was naturally drawn to him to solve my problem.
But when he requested for my phone number before I even asked, I found it odd but didn't take it serious because I had wanted to collect his too.

To cut the long story short, he called me on a Sunday afternoon of the following week saying that I should come pay him a visit at the hospital. When I told him I couldn't make it by that time, he asked me which drug was prescribed for me. I told him, then he said I don't need those drugs that I have been taking too much antibiotics and it wasn't good, that I should see Him that Friday so that he can prescribe something better.
I was happy about this because it's what I had being dreaming of, in fact I picked the time to meet him at the hospital and day because this has been what I wanted.

I closed from work that day to meet him at the hospital but unfortunately when I got there that day to meet the Consultant the whole situation went sore. When I got there, he took me to an office inside the hospital and we were talking on general level and all that. I was shocked when this doctor tried to place my hand on his groin.
I quickly withdrew my hand and he started telling me he likes me and that that was why He gave me his number. That ordinarily, he doesn't give his contact to patients. I told him that I don't do my stuff like that either.

He made a second attempt again and this time, I got angry and also threatened to scream if he doesn't stop. He apologized to me and that was settled. He then prescribed the new drugs, I thanked Him and stood up to go when he offered to see me off and I agreed.
But on our way out, he told me he needed to see one of his colleagues upstairs to quickly discuss something with Him, that I should come with Him so that He can see me off from there.
Nothing negative ever crossed my mind, all I was thinking was - we are in a general hospital and where he is going to doesn't look strange to me. So, I followed him.

So when we to the first floor, he motioned me to enter a room (Call room) there, that He was coming. But when I entered the room, I discovered it was filled with beds, which give me a jolt and I quickly dashed back to the main entrance that led to the room so that I could leave but unfortunately he was at the entrance and about to come in. He asked me why I was leaving and where am I going to, I couldn't tell Him that I was leaving because of the beds I saw in the room, so I lied to Him that I don't want to stay alone there waiting for Him. That anybody could come and start asking questions.

He said there won't be such situation that if anyone asked me what am doing there that I should tell the person am waiting for Him so He excused himself again. He came back few minutes later telling me how exhausted he was that he just left a theater after performing C&S and how busy He had been throughout the day.
Meanwhile there was an empty plastic chair that I was sitting on, it was beside one of the beds in the room so He told me to sit beside him on the bed and started pulling me towards Him. That I should feel free and relax. Before I knew it, the next thing he started groping and forcing himself on me. Now, I wish I had screamed but I thought I could make him stop by fighting him. Unfortunately, he overpowered me and He raped me!

I was so shocked after he stood up and was smiling, telling me he would like to see me again. When He observed that I was very angry, he started pleading that he was sorry, asked for my office address so that He could come pay me a visit. For the first time in my life I felt powerless and insecure. I felt He took something from me. Am not a virgin but I can never sleep with him for any reason whatsoever and at the same time I felt he took advantage of the trust I had in him. I felt so stupid to have believed him when he told me to follow him upstairs that He needed to see someone. Moreso, I feel He deserves to be exposed because to me, am very confident to say am not the first person He has done this to in that hospital. Again, he is abusing his position as a Gynecologist/Obstetrician. I feel He took advantage of the fact that he had access to the most intimate part of my body.

After the incident he still calls me to talk to me as if what happened was normal but I still find it difficult to comprehend why he feel He should violet me.
It makes me so sad that I wish I could sum up the courage and confront him because am somehow scared as am not even sure if I can stand him for a long time. The more I try to keep this issue out of my mind the more it keep eating deep and makes me feel so sad. This incident happened in 2012 but I keep having a flash back. Am always afraid to see male consultants as I don't trust them any more.

I just hope I could just forget about the incident like it didn't happen in the first place. I pray I can find some healing. I pray someone else learns from my experience and gets saved.

Source: Laila's Blog

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