8 Challenges You Will Face In Your First Year Of Marriage
It’s said that the first year of marriage is the hardest one. The
adjustments and changes that spouses encounter as newlyweds topple
almost every other period in life — you and your spouse may feel stuck
between the couple you used to be and the married couple you want to
become. Marriage is a big risk; it can guarantee a lifetime of love,
fulfillment, security and satisfaction, but it can also lead to
quarrels, abuse, loneliness and divorce.
Here are the top eight challenges that spouses may need to overcome in their first year:
1. Domesticity Problems
The
first thing that springs to mind is anything associated with
domesticity. This means anything that can be lumped into what we like to
call “household chores,”like washing the dishes, doing the laundry,
tidying up or cooking dinner. For many recently married people, sharing a
house with someone else is entirely new. Trying to divide the tasks in
a fair and even way can put an enormous strain on a relationship.
2. Financial Issues
Financial
issues always crop up in the first year of marriage. Being married
means sharing everything, spending money together,saving money together
and dividing the income fairly. For the first time ever, you can’t
simply decide to save up for a holiday or a new car; nor can you
impulsively buy that new pair of designer boots. Your partner’s
financial sensibilities have to be taken into account.
3. Romance Challenge
When
you’re married, it’s easy to stop being romantic.There’s an element of
safety, and the “you’re not going anywhere” mentality comes with a
dwindling of the things that can make a relationship worth it; texting
and calling from work, going out for a nice meal, flirting and looking
good for one another.
4. Personality Differences
Living
together means spending a lot of time together, so it’s inevitable that
certain lifestyle differences will become abundantly clear. You might
enjoy eating out while your partner might like to stay in and cook. You
might like reading, and your partner might prefer watching television.
It’s important to negotiate, compromise and find a balance.
5. Lifestyle Changes
As
a married couple, the first year will bring a whirlwind of lifestyle
changes. In your dating period, it was probably very relaxed, casual and
fun. In a marriage, these things are inevitably combined with some of
the more boring stuff, like planning, working, stressing over money and
sleeping early as opposed to going out and dancing. It’s important not
to resent your partner for this.
6. Parental Influence
When
you’re dating, it’s just the two of you. When you’re married, it’s the
whole family or both families. You have in-laws to impress. You’ve
taken their child away, so they’re bound to stick their noses into your
affairs.Parental influence can be a real burden on your marriage before
you get used to it.
7. Unexpected Fights
The first year of
marriage is said to bring an influx of fighting. This is probably
because you’re with each other all the time for the first time since
your relationship began. Plus, the fights may have an intensity that
they didn’t have before, and you might feel like you have fewer places
to escape.
8. Independent Plans
It becomes easy to start
acting independently of one another in the first year.Bound by the
wedding ring, you might feel more inclined to make plans without
consulting your partner. If you get into the habit of doing this early
on, there’s a danger it might affect your entire marriage.
Marriage
can be the most rewarding decision that you’ll make in your life. If
you make it to your first anniversary, you’re halfway there. By
establishing a strong base on which to build, the rest of your married
life should be something you can anticipate, plan towards and look
forward to.
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