Woman- You Are Destroying Your Marriage by Doing This!
Category: Relationship Matters
Women need to be careful about how they show care for their husbands and
marriages. Don't let the small stuff ruin the things that will bring you the
greatest happiness in life.
Here are some few ways you might be unknowingly destroying your husband and
killing your marriage.
1. Living outside of what you can afford
A wise old woman from my church congregation once advised: "The best thing you
can do as a wife is to live within your husband's means."
Wives, show sincere appreciation and respect to your husband by carefully
following a budget and making the most of what you have. Be wise about your
finances.
Constantly complaining about not having enough to fulfill your lavish desires
or racking up astronomical amounts of debt on your credit card is a poor way
of saying "thank you" to a faithful spouse who works hard every day to provide
for the family.
Yes, you may not have enough to buy that Kate Spade bag you've had your eyes
on for months, but your husband will love and appreciate the fact that you
honor him and are grateful for what he provides.
2. Constant negativity
You hate your hair, the messes around the house, the neighbor across the
street, your dumb co-worker, the old dishwasher, and everything in between. As
soon as your husband walks through the door, you launch into action and dump
every negative and angry thought that's crossed your mind throughout the day.
Can you imagine having to carry that burden? Negativity is draining. Men like
to fix things, and constantly being hounded with complaints makes it difficult
for him to help solve your pains.
If there is one thing I've learned from marriage is that a good man wants you
to be happy, and if he can't help you do that, it makes him unhappy. It's okay
to have a bad day once in a while, that's totally understandable, but don't
make it a way of life.
3. Putting everything else first
When your children, mom, best friends, talents, or career in front of your
husband, you send a clear message to him that he is unimportant. Imagine
having that message sent to you every day for many years. What would that do
to your self esteem?
Put your husband first.
Although it sometimes seems counter-intuitive and counterproductive, I think
you'd be amazed to find that it's often the key to the greatest happiness in
marriage. So many couples get divorced these days, because they neglect to
care and love one another and put each other first.
If you choose to put each other first, you will find a lot of joy.
4. Withholding physical affection
Men crave and need physical affection with their wives. When you constantly
decline intimacy, it wears on them.
Sex should not be used as a tool to control your spouse; it should be viewed
as a sacred tool to draw you closer to one another and to God.
It is a great blessing to be wanted and needed by a loving, romantic husband
who wants to share something so beautiful and important with you -- and you
only. Even though you might not always be in the mood, it's worth it to give
in (when you can) and spend that time bonding.
5. Not speaking his language
Women love to drop hints. (I think it's part of our DNA.) But men just don't
get them. (I think that is a part of their DNA.)
Don't waste your time giving subtle hints that he won't understand: Speak
plainly to him. Be honest about your feelings, and don't bottle things up
until you burst. If he asks you what's wrong, don't respond with "nothing" and
then expect him to read your mind and emotions. Be open about how you really
fee
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